Hi, 23 year old dude, I’ve never dated nor talked to girls outside of school and work. I’ve focused on my education until I had graduated this May.

There’s a girl I like, she’s 22, I saw her at the library and she had glitter makeup, i basically did a ‘cold approach.’ When we first met she said she had a boyfriend, I was like we could just be Facebook friends, but I respected the boundary and didn’t really message her to hang out until January.

I kept my distance at that time too, later in February/March I had asked her out, and she brought up that her ex wants to sponsor her because of her situation. Later, the next day, I had an anxiety attack because she didn’t reply to my messages, this lasted for a week.

My coworker said I should message her again. I did, and then she replied, then my coworker said I should leave her on ‘read’, if she’s interested, she will send a follow-up message. My co-worker was right.

2 hours later she sent a follow-up message and said she’s sorry, she was busy and let’s go out.

We started hanging out and I had told her how I liked her, she said she isn’t ready to date, she has to work on herself before being with someone else.

I still get these ‘feelings’ wave and I throw some hints, nudging and brushing my arm against her, eye-contact, laughing, etc. Heck, I got my friend to come over to just talk about me and throw comments, etc but it didn’t seem to change anything.

I’m starting to think she’s just aromantic, doesn’t take hints and just wants a guy friend?

TL;DR – I was highly anxious and now we are friends and I like her but she’s just not reciprocating any of the same behavior back? is she shy, aromantic?