I’ve never had any solid friends. The few that I’ve had and come and go. I haven’t had a solid friend since high school and most of them got pregnant straight out of high school and/or moved away.

I’m in my early 30s. I’ve never been married, don’t have any kids. I’ve been in two long term relationships. One when I was 18 that lasted 3 years and the other when I was 25 and last 4 years. The last one I broke up with before my 30th bday because he had substance abuse issues and was emotionally and verbally abusive. Since then I’ve done a lot of soul searching. (tried to throw very least)

I feel I’ve made progress. A few minor setbacks once in a while. I try to be more selective in my dating choices 1.) because I’m dating to eventually lead to the possibility of marriage 2.) I don’t want to get into another toxic relationship. I’ve also been attending therapy regularly to heal any past wounds from my childhood and past relationships.

I’m currently dating someone. It’s been good so far. We’ve been dating for 3 months. Hes nice and thoughtful, doesn’t seem like drama. Also, doesn’t drink very much (his mother was an alcoholic) Hes hardworking and determined to better himself and I fully support his goals.

The last best friend I had, we were friends for 5 or 6 years. We stopped being friends because I realized she was two-faced and very close minded. She also criticized me a lot and was negative overall so we stopped being friends. I haven’t really made any friends since. That was 2 years ago. I have acquaintances but no real best friends. Most of the girls I work with are catty so I stick to myself. I’ve tried online friend sites but meh.

I make friends easily with guys but the problem is if I’m dating a guy that can run into some jealousy issues which it has in the past (and judgment…not fair) and/or my guy friends want to date/hook up with me.

My question is what would a guy who’s dating a girl in the beginning stages think if she had very little to no friends? Would you think negatively of her or understand her and that she’s just looking for better friends. The last guy I dated made fun of me and judged me as if I was weird even though I told him my reasons he didn’t seem to care. Kinds advice please.