So I have been regularly going to bars on the weekends for quite some time now trying to find friends, and more importantly girls. I have always been socially behind basically everyone else but slowly but surely I built up my confidence and reduced the amount of alcohol needed to talk to girls.
I would go to a bar, find a nice girl or group of girls to talk to, have a good time, often I would get their number, the night would eventually come to an end, and I never hear back from them again despite sending messages and calling. This process repeats for a few months but I felt like I was getting a bit better every time and even just a night chatting with some girls was better than nothing.
Now we cut to this weekend where I once again head out to a bar, find two girls (who are later joined by their friends), and it is clear that one of the girls is definitely more interested than the other. We talk more and more throughout the night, exchange glances here and there, and many laughs are had. It felt really genuine and we were both laughing a lot and having a good time and I noticed her looking at me a lot when I turned away so I figured she was interested. Eventually the night ends as it always does and I tell her that I really want to talk to keep on talking to her.
After a trip to McDonalds for some late night food she ends up asking if she can sleep at my place rather than making the journey back to hers, I obviously say yes and we make our way to my place. This was actually the best part of the night. Just having a cute girl holding my arm walking through the city felt so comforting and heart warming, I really enjoyed that.
After a short journey we end up at my place and varying levels of sexy time are had, both parties had a good time as far as I could tell. We eventually go to sleep and the next morning we chat about and some more fun is had. Anyway I end up walking her to the subway and hug her before she leaves, at this point I was feeling pretty good about myself.
I had gotten her number so I send her a message about an hour or so later saying thanks for a great night and hopefully we can meet again. I never get a response to this so a few hours later I send another message asking if she has instagram/snap, this also gets no response. Finally I give her a call that same night and she does not answer.
Now I know that I have the right number so clearly she is just ignoring me for one reason or the other, and this just makes me feel really dejected. I guess this is just what one night stands can be like or the bar scene in general but I had always thought that once I can manage to bring a girl home that will mean that she really is interested and that we will stay in touch.
I guess this is a learning experience and I am just a late bloomer but man I just feel so empty now, everything feels so pointless. You can meet a girl, have a great time at the bar sharing laughs and talking, you can get her number and bring her home and have a good time, and you can still be left without a response.
So this takes me to my question, do I bother trying to call her again, maybe in a day or two, or do I just give up?
edit: A one night stand was not what I was looking for, I actually wanted something longer term.
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