So nearly every first date I've been on where I've been attracted to the girl and genuinely tried to be my best self, listening, attentive, covering the bill, finding out about them, sharing a bit about myself, trying to keep my nerves under control, have ended with positivity afterwards in text. And then the next day I get something along the lines of, "Hey I'm not looking for something straight away, just taking things chill and don't want to lead you on, or anything but you're a really nice guy but I can't really see it progressing if I'm being honest".
The amount of times I've heard this, and it absolutely crushes my soul, I've had a great night, 3-4 hour date with no rush from them to get home, went in for a kiss or hug depending on how it feels, go home thinking awesome! Can't wait for a second date with no doubt in my mind, only to be destroyed.
I'd actually rather be told "You were an asshole, that's why I don't want to see you again" because that makes rational logical sense to me, but to effectively be told "You were lovely and nice, exactly what we say we want, but…I don't want you" just gets me nowhere, and it keeps happening, what am I doing wrong, that they get so excited prior to the date, have a pleasant time during it, then drop me?
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