I always seem to later discover that the men that are very taken with me and pursue me are in a long term relationship. It is quite messed up that this seems to be happening, as one would expect them to be loyal to their partner.
Personally, I have never had a positive healthy relationship, and I'm already 26. I've had one abusive rollercoaster ride, and a fair few scraps of almost relationships. I've never experienced that nice young falling in love, and it creates a sense of envy somehow. Every time I start to like a guy who is showing interest in me, and even chasing after me, they are already in relationships. Even my "ex" contacted me once he was in a relationship to meet up… it is not very promising that all these people seem to think it's okay to pursue other girls when in a relationship. It reinforces the idea I already have that fidelity means little to so many people.
I am left with a bitter feeling, as I feel I've massively missed out on a young and happy relationship, and it's too late for me. I just wonder why it is that I have this pattern of attracting these already-committed (or not so committed) men. Is it because these are the men who feel okay with themselves enough to pursue a girl – because they are already in a relationship, they already feel somehow validated, more self-assured etc?
Literally every time someone comes onto me now, I am going to be thinking 'they're probably in a relationship.' It's depressing.
Gems of wisdom? Anyone been through similar?
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