To cut a long story short, I (28 F) was dating someone (30 M) for a few months. It wasn’t a very long relationship but my feelings were strong, and it seemed that he was serious about us too, we’d frequently discussed moving in together and going away when the pandemic is over to meet each other’s families etc. He hadn’t long been separated from his ex partner, the mother of his daughter (3 y.o), when we started seeing each other (she apparently cheated on him several times and would frequently go out with her friends all night most nights and leave him alone with the child, so I naively believed him when he said that he’d been emotionally out of the relationship for a long time and only stayed for the little one, and also in the beginning I wasn’t looking for anything serious and wasn’t expecting to fall for him… and when I had it was obviously too late…). When he ended it, in an unprecedented (for me and probably no one else) turn of events, I found out a week or so later (after a brief reconciliation between us) that they had started sleeping together again a couple of weeks before we broke up. Obviously, we’ve now broken up entirely.
That was about 3 weeks ago. I removed him from all of my social media, but kept some of his friends that I did genuinely get along with and like. In the last sort of week ago, and certainly very noticeably yesterday, one of his best friends has been “like”ing a lot of things I’ve posted which he never has before, and so yesterday evening after a couple of glasses of wine I plucked up the courage to message him and had a chat, and he said I should come hang out (not that night, but in the future). I guess my questions are: 1. is he actually flirting with me or am I misreading things and about to make a tit of myself? and 2. am I an awful/stupid person for even considering it??
TL;DR – my ex cheated on me and now one of his best friends is potentially flirting with me, do I go for it?
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