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So here’s a little back story.
I (20yo f)met this guy (32yo m)on a dating app last week and decided to meet the day after for lunch. He was half an hour late for our first date but had very legitimate excuses as to why (he had to go to his grandma’s nursing home to sign some paperwork’s which took longer than expected). I didn’t think much of it because he was extremely apologetic and was updating me where he was constantly. We hit it off pretty well and I thought he was a very genuine person.
After our first date, we decided to meet again for a second date. He told me the night before that he’s having a busy morning the day off (check on his grandma at the nursing home, go to the post office, run errands) but will probably still be able to make it. We scheduled to meet at 1 but at 10am in the morning he rescheduled with me to 2:30 which I was fine with as well. 2pm rolls around and I was already on my way out, he texted me saying he can’t make it because public transport was going to take too long to make it on time (1.5 hours) and that Uber would cost close to 100 dollars. He also said he didn’t want to drive because he becomes a horrible person when he drives and I wouldn’t want to see that. He was also extremely apologetic and giving me a bunch of excuses and telling me he’s never usually late or flaky and that he’s very sorry. I ignored his texts all day and told him that night that I was hurt by it and I think he’s great but this is something I see to be important and I need to set boundaries for myself so we should stop talking. We have a 12 years age difference and he told me that I wouldn’t be so emotional about it small things like this in 10 years time but in saying that, he was still sorry for cancelling on me last minute. He also said at the end of his long paragraph to try to relax a bit with stuff like this, it’s not a big deal,he just couldn’t make it, things happen.
AITA for making this a big deal and ending things because of this? I would usually look pass last minute cancellation if it was an emergency or if my date got called in to work last minute or something. I feel like he could’ve planned his day a little better the night before if he truly wanted to make it? But am I being too harsh? Does he know more because he’s 12 years older than me?
Sincerely, Just want to meet some genuine people
Edit: this is my first ever reddit post, I can’t believe I created a reddit account just so that I can get some unbiased opinions about it
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