I was dating a girl (24) for 7 months and I was her first real relationship her past dating experiences all the ever were just 2-3 month things and then the guy would just ditch her, ghost her, or treat her like shit. So along came me after college (25). We ended up meeting each other through a dating app and first date didn’t go so well bc she told me that down the road. But her friend persuaded her to give me another chance. After that first date a week goes by and then I ended up saving her because her car ran outta gas. So outta the goodness in my heart I got her a gas can and filled her car up. So second date, we went on I took her to her favorite restaurant and it was the perfect evening. I picked her up from work in downtown traffic and we went from there. Grabbed some drinks and then headed to the restaurant. And so a couple weeks go by and she confessed she loved me. Nothing wrong with that. When it hits it hits and some people feel that love and fall in love sooner than others. I felt the same way because she was perfect. Throughout these 4-5 months we literally hungout everyday, she told me she was obsessed with me, always on her mind, talked about getting a place, all the things you’d love to hear.
4-5 months later coronavirus hits. Shit hits the fan. We hungout once over the course of all this and She becomes stressed out at everything. I mean everything. Work, family, her and I and life. So I was always reassuring and just being there for her because that’s what I felt. Long story short, we ended up breaking up because I brought it to her attention of how she was being short with me, reading texts and not responding and just not being in it with me. I worried.
So I brought it up and shit went hay wire and blew up. She said she felt these feelings of not loving as strong and losing some feelings and lost that spark 2.5-3 months in. BUT the way I see it is, everyone loves and feels differently. No couples are exactly the same as far as the way they love, which makes love that special and unique. It’s nice to have that differential. Well, she didn’t see it that way. She was so deadset on her thoughts and ideas of things even though I was trying my damndest. So, after the blowout I patched things over and confessed what I felt and what could’ve been because I had a cheesy idea throughout the course of the months to give her a rose, and when 12 months hits I would’ve gotten her a bouquet of roses along with a fake one. And in the bouquet of roses I was going to write a letter that said “I will love you until the last rose dies.” and so she asked me if I could stop making her cry, and that she feared that she would never be able to stop crying over me, and she asked what if she never feels that spark with anyone?…she said I made her the happiest she’s ever been. I just can’t wrap my head around why not be with someone who makes you so happy in life? After all happiness is the pursuit of happiness in life. Like stuff takes time to spark that flame and ignite it.
I know what I want and I want to be with her and I know I won’t get over her. That’s what my heart is telling me. But she said you got to get over me or at least try to and give her some space to think about stuff. She just sounds so unsure with things…and I just wish I could make her see what I see. My question to whomever reads this is, what do I do? I just want to be back with her.
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