I (26F) have been seeing a guy (25M) for 2 months now. We met though OLD and had two dates right before quarantine and decided to continually see each other. So we’ve pretty much been quarantining with each other every weekend, which has definitely sped up our relationship. It’s like we’ve completely skipped the dating phase and are already playing “house” together.

In the beginning I didn’t think much of it nor did he, we were both very happy and still are. There’s no doubt we are compatible and get along with each other. The problem is, I realized I’ve gotten attached and in the bottom of my heart I know that he wants to keep his options open post lockdown because he had just moved here recently. I know the situation sucks at the moment and only time can tell, but decided to have a talk and get some peace of mind. He basically told me he likes me a lot and is attached to me as well. I’m gf material and he cares for me but he just doesn’t know if the spark is there which is why he wants to keep his options open in the future but doesn’t want to lose me. I’m on the same page as him minus keeping the options open part because considering how much time we’ve already spent together I personally know I can’t give other guys a fair chance when I’m already this attached to him. It’s not like we are both early on in our relationship with each other and dating around, which would make things easier. I’ve been spending every single weekend with this guy, so I’m not how he can be okay with me sleeping with other guys given the nature of our relationship. I asked him if he was okay with that, and he said he’s not but would hope I just wouldn’t tell him if I did. But me just knowing the possibility of him sleeping with other girls while we still saw each other would drive me absolutely crazy wondering it each time I saw him.

I’m also not sure if we weren’t able to have the spark because of quarantine hitting and speeding up our relationship or because we met on an OLD app. We both said this was the most serious we have been on an OLD app and weren’t sure if it’s just taking longer to figure us out since this is new territory for us. I guess I’m not sure where to go from here, we’re taking some time away from each other to think about it but I’m not sure what to think about it. I personally want to give us a chance post quarantine because I believe it would be the best closure for me if we tried and didn’t work out, but I’m worried that if I stick around and wait until then I will end up getting more hurt so not sure if I should end things now. I’m wondering can a spark develop later on or do we truly have to have it in the beginning to know?

We’re meeting up again at the end of this week to talk about it but I’m so confused I’m not sure what I could bring to the conversation. I feel like my only two options are asking him if he’s willing to try post quarantine or just ending things now. It’s hard because it’s not like we aren’t happy or that we fought, we are just figuring out the pending future in a time of uncertainty.

Any advice would be helpful, thanks!