Hi Reddit,

I wanted to ask you before I do this (probably) bad Idea today in 2 hours.

I have been on two dates with this girl I am really into. But she gives me mixed messages of interest. For example, she writes more or sometimes less (or nearly nothing). Most of the time I am pulling the chat conversations. But during the dates, we both talked a lot and it’s like a completely different feeling. I always think we have a connection.
Now comes the information which puts me in a position where I don’t know where exactly I am or what to do. She has a 7 years relationship, which was an open relationship, caused by her ex over a long-distance. This relationship is only +-2 months ago. Her Ex ended the whole thing.
I know that she isn’t ready for getting an emotional binding so soon. She even told me directly over chat and in person. She even asked if I am okay with it. I answered with an, I know that you aren’t emotionally available right now. After that happened I didn’t write for 2 days cause I needed to sort out, what I wanted. I thought to myself if she is interested in me, she would look to pick up a conversation. After I didn’t write for 2 days, she sent me a voice message after her work. Until now (95% of the time), it was always me who started the conversation. She even called me and we were talking about what was going on in the last days and so on and I told her I needed some space to think. After that happened we went back to our daily chatting.
I am just clueless about what she is looking for or what I am to her. So I want to call her and discuss that subject, cause she won’t find/or make time till 1-2 weeks. I know I should be more patient but if we don’t talk about it it’s like avoiding the end which has been cast?
So now you wonder what I am looking for? ( I wonder too)
Well, I rather would have a real relationship with her, cause for me she is one I want to be together with. But I would also be happy to start with an FWB and in the long run, end in a relationship if possible. I am not going to tell her that on the phone.

If she tells me there is no interest I just don’t need anymore to invest so much into her. I don’t just want to be someone she talks to so she gets some attention from someone who is obviously into her…