Started talking to a girl online in April. Asked her to get coffee and it seemed to have gone well. Then asked her to get food and we ended up spending the whole day together. Before I left, she kept looking at my lips so I went for a kiss. She slightly turned her head so I only got a section of her lips.

Things seemed to not have changed for the better or worse, so I asked her if she wanted to go to a store so we could get something she wanted. I told her we could make it a fun “date.” She questioned the “date” part and was reluctant. I told her if she’s not interested, it’s no big deal. That quickly got her to change her mind.

We usually text each other, but I try not to go overboard. She usually texts me as well but if I even flirt, she never reciprocates. If I try to plan details about us meeting, she also stops replying. But when I said, “If you don’t let me know by tonight, I’ll have to cancel” which QUICKLY got her to respond and set up the details.

Basically, she is hot and then goes cold really fast; especially when I show her that I’m willing to exit from the situation.

We went on another date (June) and this was after I kissed her. It seemed like we were just being friends. She doesn’t/didn’t sit close, flirt, reciprocate, or anything. When I got home I asked her if she’d rather be friends than date, but she told me: I don’t want to lanel anything, I’m still getting to know you.

WTH? It’s been two months already and it feels like I’m being friendzoned. The fact that she hasn’t even flirted once makes me feel like I’m wasting my time. Am I missing something here?

I’m not playing stupid labeling games. Either you want to be friends (I don’t need more) or you’re interested or none.

Me (25, M) Her (22, F)