I just want to get a straight up answer tbh – more details below

• Around 2 years ago, I asked out my classmate who rejected me. We were cordial with each other afterwards, but we kept our distance. Then around a year ago, they texted me out of the blue and it was my idea to catch up over lunch. We had a good time, and agreed to be less distant with each other. They still weren’t interested in dating which I accepted.

• However, throughout our friendship, there are some weird off-one comments they’ve made including “If you really liked me, you wouldn’t be on dating apps” , constantly asking me if I have a SO yet?. It honestly felt they were trying to keep tabs on me? It almost feels like they don’t want to be with me but don’t want me to be with me

• However around February-March, our communication ramped up significantly and we were talking almost every week (as friends) – my classmate was initiating this

• Then out of the blue, they wrote “How’s your SO?” even though they had no indication to think I had one (other than the fact I’m on dating apps) and even wrote “Don’t just write me off :P” and my reply was “I just get annoyed that you ask me this multiple times, but I am talking to someone” (that faded though and currently not dating)

• They apologized and I accepted and since then we haven’t talked for over a month

• I am really questionning myself on whether now would be a good opportunity to just call my classmate and just have a conversation where I can ask them why they said “Don’t just write me off” and “If you really liked me, you wouldn’t be on dating apps” etc. because unfortunately I still have feelings for them even though I kept my distance

I don’t know why I want to contact them so badly 🙁 I’m wondering if their feelings changed for me but because I was seeing someone at the time maybe they backed off idk because their communication ramped up so much over the last few months