I’m sure this sort of post frequently finds it’s way onto this subreddit, but I’m feeling very down about my situation and would really appreciate the advice. I’m a 28m who has been single now for coming up to 5 years. I’m a bit of a niche guy and partly understand that my options are quite limited for who is likely to be interested in me. I’m an extremely reclusive and introverted person, I don’t drink, smoke, take drugs or go to clubs, I don’t have social media accounts full of random adds, and I don’t own any games consoles. Essentially, I am a laid back quiet guy who spends most of his time making music, exploring nature and relaxing. I have no baggage or drama in my life at all. I have two good jobs, my own car and my own place.

Outwardly, I probably come across to people as a bit of a “hippy” and have felt the need to overcompensate on dating apps in the past because I constantly worry people who don’t know me assume I’ll either be unclean (I’m OCD clean) or super into drugs (never touched any). The sort of person I find attractive and search for/imagine to be my ideal partner is somebody likeminded and similarly niche. A quiet introvert who has a bohemian clothing style and likes all things natural. I know those people do exist, but I can honestly say after 5 years of being single, I’ve not had anybody like that show me even the slightest bit of interest, or really even met anybody like that.

For a person like me, it seems like dating apps don’t work, and neither does being present on social media for the most part. I’m not sure why it is, whether my appearance or lifestyle just isn’t that appealing to the women who live in my city, but I rarely get likes on tinder and same thing for adds on Facebook. I always assumed a very earthy and creative person like myself would attract at least SOME attention from artsy creative females, but sadly that does not seem to be the case.

Can anybody offer me any advice on where I might be going wrong in meeting the sorts of women I want to meet, boho earthy book reading introvert types. I’ve tried dating apps, I’ve tried adding people on Facebook or waiting for people to add me, but the end result seems to be ending up in the same situation and I’m unsure of why.

Thoughts?