Hi all! This is my first time posting on this subreddit and I’m excited to hopefully get to know some of you 🙂

As someone who has been dating on and off throughout the years I’ve heard many different opinions on if someone should have a “standards list”. I realize this idea is controversial for some but I’ve also learned that it appears everyone has one of these, even if it’s just subconscious and not written out.

With that said, can someone please tell me their opinion on if the below list of what I am looking for in a guy is realistic or unrealistic? I’m especially interested in male opinions! I’ve already asked a few friends and got some interesting, contrasting, opinions and I’m now interested in what the Reddit community thinks 🙂 I would really appreciate honesty and my only request would be, if there’s something you would change or get rid of, can you please explain your reasoning for it? Of course, if you think I shouldn’t have a “standards list” either I’m happy to hear your reasoning for that as well.

Just one note: The below list is just “in general”. I completely understand all humans have flaws and there are ebbs and flows that occur in any and all relationships. The below points aren’t to say “the guy has to have these traits 100% of the time” but rather, “the guy should generally have these traits, give and take the bad days or seasons that occur in any normal relationship.”

Also, if it helps, I’m in my late 20’s.

Here’s the list!

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I’m looking for a guy who…

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