usually i try not to remain in contact with my exes if the breakups were horrible and traumatic but recently i chose to remain friends with this one girl since we had a mutual breakup although she has told me that she hopes things will be different in the future because she still likes me. believe me i have tried convincing her to move on and find someone else more compatible with her but she refuses to listen no matter what i tell her.

i know that we will never work out romantically as i don’t feel the sort of connection and chemistry that i’m looking for and I’ve already decided to avoid interacting with her too much in case she gets too attached to me but….

whenever she texts me i find myself feeling soft for her and can’t bring myself to ignore her texts. when i don’t hear from her for a day (we texted everyday when we were dating) i think about her and wonder if she’s doing fine… and then i find myself replying her texts and i feel guilty for being too soft and probably making her feel attached again and again…

i feel like the only way i can avoid getting her attached to me more is cutting her off but i know this will absolutely destroy her (she kinda seeks comfort in me because she doesn’t really have anyone to talk to and her family is abusive) and that’s why i feel that i can’t just drop her anyhow i like.

i don’t wanna drop her either because she really is great as a friend but i feel she can’t move on like this. i know i keep contradicting myself. i’m just really conflicted