I [24F] have been seeing this guy [24M] for around 2 months. Our first date was right before the lockdown (like literally the day before). He said he liked me afterwards and thanked me for coming. Since then, he has been hot and cold. But to be fair, he is not a good texter tho, a very bad one if I’m being blunt. However overall, we have been on a very good term, flirty and whatnot. He even told me that he considered me as his potential girlfriend. He used to drive up to my place just to wave hello (he lives 1 hr drive away from me). So I was convinced that he was genuinely interested.

Fast forward to over a week ago, I cooked for him some food, he drove over to pick it up. After that day, he stopped calling me (he called every evening before), texting was boring and I always initiated it. Although I only texted good morning, or to ask him about his day (so 1-3 texts a day) but I felt like I was being annoying/clingy as the way he replied to my text was dry (one-word replies, did not really care), therefore I figured I should stop bothering. We haven’t talked since, but it appears that he as well hasn’t been active on Instagram. But I can’t be sure knowing you can set to not let other people see your activity status. Besides, although he has only 6 posts on his page, the post count says 7, so I am just wondering if he has done anything to restrict me from seeing his activity. I did some research tho, and apparently you can’t really do that but I’m very lowtech so maybe there is some kind of magic that I did not know.

I’m sorry I’m a bit all over the place with my post and I know sometimes life gets in the way so people just can’t make you a priority, but I don’t know, it just doesn’t feel right. I want ask but again, I am just afraid that he is genuinely busy, and I don’t want to be annoying. And knowing him as a person, I can’t think of anything that could possibly make him THIS busy, to the point that it seems as if he has just disappeared from planet earth. I’m cool if he has lost his interest in me, there isn’t much I can do about that but I can’t come up with a reason why. I believe I was warm and loving to him, I listened to him, to his problems and was there when no one else was, although we have only been seeing each other for over a month. I care about his wellbeing, that was why I cooked for him, he giggled when I handed him the food, he held the box, stared and smiled at it for a good minute (it was so cute). I may have nagged a bit (a little tiny tiny bit) about the fact that he was not taking a good care of himself. He said he doesn’t like people who nag, could it be?

I really don’t know what I am looking for here, I just have been thinking about this a lot lately so I just want to put it out there.

Thank you for making it this far and sorry for the bad English tho.