I’m (21f) and he’s (23m). We’ve been together for a little over a year, and this morning I woke up to a break up text from him. That might be bad by itself, but its contents were what really did it. He said he was thankful that I was supportive and helped regain his confidence. He then said in doing so, it “made him realize he has more options out there and doesn’t want to settle down. He wanted to go and sleep around now because beforehand he never thought he was good enough to try for super attractive girls.” I just feel crushed. I knew of his insecurities but I never expected this to go to his head.

Backstory:

When we first met, I thought he was really attractive even when he was insecure about his weight, which at the time was close to 250 pounds. Despite him telling me he was working on losing weight, he often expressed worry in being seen with me in public because he was afraid of receiving judgmental stares; I was a very slim girl by contrast. I just did what I thought was right and wanted to demonstrate that I’d appreciate him the same amount if he was overweight or not. I honestly just never saw this coming. If it means anything, I know it’s too much of a coincidence that he had this “epiphany” around the time when he significantly slimmed down, maybe when he lost 50 pounds.

People talk of spotting red flags, but I didn’t even notice any yellow flags. I’m at such a loss on what to do next.