I use the term anxiety, because I genuinely do suffer from it and I guess I’m referring to the fact that he triggers a part of my anxiety.

Anyway, I’m 27f and I haven’t dated a huge amount. I’ve dated a few people and only been in one relationship. But how do you know when you just feel genuinely anxious about dating because you aren’t hugely experienced/confident, or when this person seems a little “off” and makes you anxious because they aren’t right for you.

The guy I’m currently seeing has a lot of what I perceive as typical “red flags” but also I don’t know if I’m just being extra cautious and over thinking behaviour and turning quite innocent things into “red flags” because I’m afraid of getting hurt. There is a definite excitement I get from him, but sometimes I feel it’s based on fear. I don’t know, there’s a lot more information I could give but I have a habit of going on a bit too much.

I guess what I’m asking is, how do you differentiate the genuine excitement of liking a person who feels right for you, and just makes you a little nervous, as oppose to anxiety because something feels off and you’re worried about how much emotional power this person holds over you?