We’d been casually seeing each other for around 6 months. He’s in his late 30s and I’m mid20s F. We didn’t see each other often, but we’d text almost every day. Over time I started to catch feelings. I think he kind of liked me too, but I don’t think he ever had feelings for me. He’d always bring up deal-breakers that made it clear we had no future (different ideas about kids, different career priorities and I might be moving away in a few months for work). He was also very likely sleeping with a ton of other girls (no judgement – we weren’t a couple, I was seeing other people too – but it started to bother me after a while because I caught feelings).

It was confusing, because sometimes he’d act like he really did care about me. He’d go from really distant, to making an effort to tell me what he was doing all the time – even if it was menial. He’d share extremely personal things about himself and be really supportive of my ambitions/feelings etc.

And I don’t know if it’s because this isolation thing has me feeling extra lonely, but I’m starting to get to a point in my life where I want more than an occasional FWB. And this guy was just not meeting any of my physical or emotional needs. Despite being really attracted to him, he’s never given me an orgasm (which is not something I struggle with generally – almost all of my past partners have been able to do this without issue). He’d also become more distant than usual lately and I realized this is a complete waste of time.

He’s stopped texting me first. He’d sometimes take days to text back, if he texts back at all. Ignored me when I asked him if he wanted to hang out, twice. Obviously I know this means he doesn’t particularly like me. I asked him if everything was okay, and he said it was. But this continued.

So today I wished him the best, told him that it’s fine that he isn’t into me and that I didn’t want to continue with this so I could direct my time and energy towards finding something actually meaningful. Unsurprisingly, he didn’t respond. And I know obviously that this was never going to be anything serious and that he probably just saw me as a booty call.

But I really did like him, so I’m sad anyways. And because dating is logistically strange now due to COVID + because everyone is in isolation, I’m going to be really lonely for a while I think. I think I’m just starting to realize how empty my life is right now – all my friends and family are in different states and I’m basically in my current city completely alone. So I’m just feeling kind of like shit and could use some reassurance that I did the right thing ending things with this guy. Thanks for reading, cheers.