A couple months back I met this woman while gaming who I hit it off with, and we eventually grew super close, but then she began acting distant and red flags began popping up…

One day, I did a reverse image search and found out that most of her pics belonged to an IG account with close to 100K followers…now, she always kept her life a secret (just told me that she worked out and was a hip hop dancer), so I actually ended up believing it, since the IG account is that of what appears to be a part time fitness/sportswear model (she sells clothes in her bio).

When I confronted her tho, she got super defensive, deleted me off her friends list, and said “See, my brothers were right about you. They knew you weren’t trustworthy, and would flip out once you found my IG”…and yeah, I believed it and we moved past it, and eventually got close again. 95% of my calls either get ignored, or she has an excuse as to why she can’t talk. She’s half Korean and half Japanese btw, apparently, and is from Japan, but moved to NY, and lived in Miami for a short while before moving back to NY with her family (they have money like that). I asked her to video chat like 3x, and she ignored all my texts. However, she got her brother to speak to me (took him a couple weeks since he was busy), and that put my mind at ease. He basically explained what Asian parents are looking for, and to keep up what I’m doing (called me from her number).

When I first met her she told me to get Snapchat, but I’m not a big social media guy so I didn’t. However, can pics be faked on there, as well? She used to send me pics when I asked (via text), but it seems like ever since I discovered the IG, she hasn’t sent me anything, even though she apparently posts on SC all the time. She’s been sending me pics without a problem by text for allll this time, but now there’s an issue? It’s been like 2 months since she sent me any pics. When I confronted her about it, she said “I don’t feel like sending pics out like that. It ain’t my fault that you don’t have SC”.

She also apparently 19, and works as a beta game tester, making $22/hour (worker at a comic book store before that, and temporarily as a hip hop dancer before that in Miami). She says she graduated school early and finished her last high school year in America, but her IG shows that she’s been in Korea for like the past 3 years (so how could she have been in Miami and Korea at the same time? Why does she have a Florida phone number?).

I confronted her about it, asking her to hear me out and that her not sending pics or video calling me had me skeptical about everything, and her response was basically “You already know what I look like, so I don’t see the point of that. But I’ll tell you what, if you don’t believe I’m me, then stop talking to me. Simple.”

Now, her dad texted me a week ago from her phone, asking what’s going on…and I asked him “how could she have been in Miami and Korea at the same time?”, and he said that she doesn’t give out her real location due to possible stalkers, and that the woman on IG is indeed her and that they’ve been in Korea. He said that her family uses the link in the IG’s bio to sell clothes, and that I’ve been a horrible friend to her, and that I’m not cut out to date someone like her because I was asking for pics/video chat when we’re not even a couple, as well as my frustrations in the past about her not giving enough to this friendship/relationship (she rarely asks how I’m doing or asks about my life), and to believe what she says or get tf on. And he also said “You don’t want to make an enemy out of my family.”

That aside, she has a lot of holes in her story. And even if what he said is true, then that would officially make her a liar, since she wasn’t in Miami when we first met (she told me stories about being in Miami). And if she’s really in Korea, then why when I asked her a couple nights back if she could talk she said that she couldn’t because it was either “meditation night” or “movie night”, which means she isn’t in Korea because it would’ve been around noon time over there. Plus, we had convos in the past and my phone didn’t get any outstanding charges (for neither incoming/outgoing calls, and I don’t use Wi-Fi calling). Plus, the woman on IG’s birthday is definitely in early August sometime, and hers is in early January, but she said that was just due to Koreans celebrating their b-day twice.

I didn’t believe it and told him that if she doesn’t video call me, I’m going to assume that she’s a catfish, and haven’t heard back anything since…Now, was I wrong for not believing her, especially after talking to her brother? Would things have been different if I downloaded Snapchat? And anytime I talked to her and we argued, I could hear the emotion and passion in her voice, so it seemed real. Plus, there were like 3 pics that didn’t pop up when I reverse image searched them, so it seems like it could’ve been the truth.

Soooo…did I get catfished? Or did I throw away something good due to my gut feeling and not being patient? If so, what should I do to fix this situation?