i’ve been chasing this woman for about 4 months, we text almost every day and hang out a couple of times before and after lockdown, i planned all of the hangouts we went. i made thoughtful gifts for her as she told me sometime she skips breakfast before work and feels sleepy during work so i thought of buying oat biscuits to not starve herself and teabags to keep her awake during work. i also made a little effort during the lockdown by baking cake for her and wrote letters for her (not love letter), she said she loved everything, i think we clicked and all, was very happy at the time. these are just a few examples of effort that i’ve done. i’ve been single in my whole life and she’s the third crush in my life and the one that i liked the most, she has asked me if i have ever dated in my life.

but suddenly one day she texted me saying that she doesn’t like me, i did not confess my feelings yet but oh well, i replied and thanked her for letting me know rather than leading me on and did not ask why she thinks that way because i think that people don’t owe you an explanation so i moved on from there, of course, it hurts like hell. she’s an amazing woman i would ever wish for. i took it as it was an amazing experience rather than a wasted effort. so we stopped talking after that.

after a week after the text she sent, she suddenly texted me, “what do you like about me?” i was shocked, my mind was confused, it surprises me. i asked myself why did she ask that. i have 2 assumptions in my mind:

1. she’s giving me a second chance
2. she wants to boost her ego (which i STRONGLY do not believe so)

i did not ask why did she asked but i want to call her to express it rather than sending a text, so i asked if i could call her and she replied saying she’s afraid of giving me false hope and don’t know how to react. so i decided to reply her with a text. i put effort and my heart into composing this 1000 word message on what i like about her, what do i value her, what do i feel about her. at the last part of the text i told her it was the most important part which i prioritize her happiness, i would rather see her be with somebody she’s happy rather than being with me unhappily. i think it is important that you choose a decision that makes you happy.

she did not respond, not even a simple thank you to the message (it’s already been 2 weeks, i can confirm she has read it) where i put effort and heart into composing it and i feel like i am a clown here, she makes me think that she treats this message as if it’s nothing. of course, i’m upset, i didn’t ask why she did not respond, i just leave it as it is. i’m upset that why she did not respond, not because she doesn’t feel the same way. i just going to move on.

so redditors, why do you think a woman would want to know what a guy liked about her even though she already clearly said that she’s not interested? should i have asked her why did she ask before giving in? any comments about me or about anything will be well-read too. thank you!