-Act before there is a chance for you to hesitate. Buying into hesitation just makes talking to someone you want harder and harder, as more anxious mental dialogue creeps in.

-Even if you hesitate, remember that your thoughts aren’t reality. A good way to frame your thoughts is to be curious about how you can handle them. Try to see your anxiety as a conflict or puzzle for you to solve.

-You can easily get excited and addicted to your uneasiness when you view it as a game. (Also, you will get addicted to breaking through your anxiety because its so rewarding. You get to see the world as it actually is, not as you initially project it)

-Don’t have expectations of how you want the interaction to go. When you talk to someone, even when you’re in a high pressure situation, realize that they are just another human being. You don’t have to treat her any differently (or overcompensate) than you would another girl (that you have an easy time talking with).

-A lot of time, boring conversation is all you need to vibe with someone. Nothing crazy or over the top, no crazy intimacy or funny lines. The longer you’re chill and the longer you stay together, the more connection builds.

Here’s a video that discusses this even further: https://youtu.be/T4a3QgOvs6A