So I (25M) met this woman (26F) through OLD and we’ve been speaking for the last 5-6 weeks, we text daily on Whatsapp and we’ve even had a few phone calls, and, more recently, video calls too. It’s obvious she’s really into me, and, for the most part, I am into her too. She has an incredible personality, a heart of gold, and she really is beautiful. I do feel a real connection with her.

The one issue I have is her weight. Now, I don’t want to come across as horribly shallow so let me preface this by saying I don’t mind at all her being a little overweight – in her pictures she was a bit overweight but I still found her perfectly attractive. The issue is she is more overweight than what I was expecting. She’s mentioned that she is looking forward to the gym and pools opening up again, as she knows she has gained, however I honestly feel like such a dickhead for judging her so much on that alone.

On one hand, I’m willing to wait, because I’d like to give things a try and I know for sure that if she did lose that extra weight she could be the near perfect woman for me.

On the other, I feel like A: a dick (as mentioned) for becoming so blind to her other qualities for something that is variable),and B: I worry that if she didn’t lose the weight, I may not be able to move passed it.

As we’re still in lockdown in my country (and likely to be for at least a few more weeks, if not longer), I’m really conscious of keeping things going only to end up hurting her down the line.

TL;DR Met a lovely girl through OLD, however struggling to get passed her current weight. She has mentioned losing extra weight herself once lockdown is lifted – do I continue things and hope that pans out or let her down now.
 

Please can someone weigh in with their thoughts? Thanks.