I’ve been dating this girl for just under a month so I’m seeing it as a red flag we are already having issues. However I thought I’d ask reddit first.

Little context. I’ve known this girl for just under a month. We seem to really like eachother and up until now nothing has gone wrong. She has mild autism and fibromyalgia so she’s a little different to most of the woman I’ve dated but I’ll be honest I’ve got a very big soft spot for her so I can easily see past any of that.

Anyway issues occurred last night during a phone call, there was a certain level of tension between me and the girl I’ve been dating. Not good tension either. At one point during our conversation she accused me of man splaning as during discussions I often repeat what she says to me back to her in a rephrased way. I told her it was kind of my way of agreeing with her and I in no way meant to sound patronising. She accepted this gracefully but the whole discussion made me feel self conscious with how I discuss things. I didn’t even realise I was doing it.

Second thing that happened was when we were talking about the differences between English and French culture. She more or less accused me of being shallow minded as I’m basing my own opinions on my own limited experiences. I told her that what I’m saying isn’t based on fact or what I think is fact. But instead my own opinions based on my own limited observations. She told me I should choose my words abit more carefully.

The whole conversation just made me feel very ashamed of myself. However I can honestly say I meant no offence so I’m wondering if this is an issue of clashing personalities, communication differences or whether I’m just a massive ass and I’m too stupid to realise.

What do you guys think. All answers are appreciated.