This is a long distance situation. Me (26/M) and this girl (23/F) went to the same high school 9 years ago and she really liked me back then. It never materialized but we reconnected about 3 months ago and everything was great. Constant texting, talking on the phone. I thought things were going well, not even realizing that I was getting emotionally attached. Then I noticed that she started to pull back. Taking longer to reply to messages, and making excuses to not talk on the phone. I decided to pull back from the situation as well to see how she would respond. Well she eventually reached out and went back to being hot. That didnt last long. Maybe after 3 days she went back to her cold behavior.

I told her that my dad got diagnosed with cancer the day we got the news. Something really personal that in hindsight I shouldn’t have shared. She consoled me and I felt that well if things dont work out, I could at least keep her as a friend.

Then she left me on read about 4 days ago. She would always respond to my messages, no matter how long it would take, so I thought this was odd. I figured I would send her another message yesterday to ask how her new car was doing. Something lighthearted. She responded and we went back and fowarth for a few messages then boom, she left me on read again.

I’m sad as fuck now and I feel like I was just getting played with this whole time. I never let my gaurd down, and this time I slipped up. I also feel like a clown for reaching back out. Why not just be direct with me instead of just straight up ignoring me? Especially at a down time in my life. People are so shitty man.