Maybe I’m just not ready for a relationship, maybe he’s just a little too comfortable with me, I’m not sure.

I just met this guy the other day who right off the bat expressed his interest in dating. I thought he was cute so I gave him my contact info. The same night he calls me and basically asks to come over for a little bit but he had a weird way of asking it and I’m not sure that I fully understood what he was saying because my signal was bad.

Anyways, I said yes just to see how it’d play out. That was really stupid of me lol, but I wanted to get past that anxiety I usually get with new people so I was just like OKAY fuck it. Also we’re both pretty young and it hasn’t been long since we’ve graduated, so I still live with my parents and so does he. I say this because I told him he couldn’t come in because my parents were home, it was late, and I didn’t want to wake them up. So we just sat in his car parked in my driveway.

We talked a little bit and he’s immediately touchy, grabbing my hands and touching my face, hair, and back, he got a little close to my face at times. It wasn’t CRAZY, it shocked me a little because I’m a personal space type of person but i didn’t mind it. He’s going on and on about how much he liked me, complimenting me, etc etc. Then he starts oversharing. Telling me how depressed he was over some scholarship he lost, how he resents not having a father figure in his life and how jealous he was that I had one. (Note: my “father figure” is my step dad and I hate him and i told the guy this but that’s besides the point LMAO)

His feelings were just all over the place it seemed. One moment he’s being funny, then he’s serious, then he’s depressed, then he’s giving me hardcore bedroom eyes. It wasn’t in that order but it was just very chaotic to me. I was nice, I kept my boundaries without hurting his feelings, I comforted him over the TMI he gave me.

AGAIN. THIS WAS ALL IN THE SAME DAY THAT WE MET.

He walks me to my porch and asks for a kiss on the cheek, I just joke around about it and shake my head because I didn’t want to. I just met the guy, man. And then whatever he leaves and sends me a few snapchats. I suspected he was drunk, I’m like 70% sure he was drunk. But the next day he talks me normally, and way less weird than the night before. And then the day after that is normal too.

Which, okay, I guess then you’d say yeah the mf was drunk. But the thing is he never said anything about the things he said that night. He never apologized, never asked about anything, and he had to have remembered at least some of our conversation because he said the next day: “also I really liked the outfit you wore last night” so it’s not like he was so piss drunk he couldn’t have remembered anything.

Is it just that he was too embarrassed to mention anything else or did he really not see anything wrong with the things he said? Or am I just overreacting, since personally I’m a very private person and I just don’t go talking about deeply personal stuff with people I barely know?

I don’t know. We’ve talked on the phone a few times and he seemed way different. I’m planning on meeting him again today to see if he acts the same way he did the other night. I just thought it was a little much for me, and I promised myself that if tonight isn’t any better than the last then I’m just going to tell him I’m not interested in dating him.