Hey guys, I often feel sad about being single. I know that one should be happy without depending on others but I do want intimacy.
I have social anxiety so I find it extremely hard not only to date and talk to girls but to even make friends. I get very nervous and awkward. After getting to know me, people tend to say that I have a good personality and more often than not, I become less shy afterwards. It's funny how different I am when I get comfortable with someone. But that first impression usually scares me.
So when I meet a girl and talk to her, the way I talk probably seems very offputting. I wish they kind of gave me another chance just to get to know me more instead of judging too quickly but it's not their fault anyway. It's human nature, and everyone judges immediately, including guys.
I don't really like dating apps because it seems very forced and superficial. It makes more sense to use it for a hookup. Not judging if you're into that, it's cool. But I really want a relationship. I tried asking girls out in person randomly before. But then I thought that it wasn't that great of an idea since it's so random. There have been situations where I seen the same girl a few times, making it less random. But even during those times, I felt super awkward approaching.
I keep reading on reddit forums how girls don't like to be approached and interrupted. That they find it creepy and whatnot. Then there are girls who say it's ok too. So I'm always on the fence on what to do…
P.S. I'd like to make new friends during these times. Not sure how to go about it with the pandemic going on. If anyone would like to talk and become friends, I'm open to that. Please don't hesitate to message me. Hope you guys are happy and doing alright, stay safe guys 🙂
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