Hello everyone. I need some serieus dating advice. I (25 M) had a relationship of 6 years with my ex (24 F) that ended in her dumping me. We both suffer from mental health problems (I am bipolar and have psychosis) and after those six years she dumped me for reasons she won't tell me. We are still good friends, but that is a bit beside the point. After a few months I was actually glad she broke up with me because the relationship was a dead end. She never ever talked about her feelings to me and she was deathly afraid of change in her world. So much so that whenever I wanted to talk about our future (ea buying a house toghether, living toghether, maybe kids…) she freaked out and immediately changed the subject. I always realised that it was because of her mental issues that she never opened up to anyone, not even me. I know I have my own problems but at least I can easily talk about my feelings and look towards the future. After pouring my heart and soul into that relationship I was kinda sick of dating a girl with mental issues like that. I wanted someone who was more stable. So I made a Tinder. This is just a little backstory.
Now onto the main problem. Every single time I get a match It ends in 1 of two ways. Either I text them first and they never text me back or they do text me back, we talk a lot (like during the course of a few weeks) and after I inevitably tell them about my mental issues (not in detail, just a general description while also telling them it's not as bad as it sounds) they either completely lose interest or they ghost me. So I don't know what to do. Is dating a girl with mental issues like me my only option? I don't want to feel like I have to be strong one in the relationship all the time. I also need someone to help me carry my burdens from time to time and I'm afraid I won't get that out of a relationship with someone like me.
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