Dating doesn’t work for me because I want someone to have sex with me but not be exclusive but still not see anyone so we’re basically partners but not really

My dating radar is broken. What I want isn't feasible or realistic and I acknowledge that.

I don't want to be exclusive or anybody's 'one'. I don't want to be texted good night and good morning or brought flowers or written love notes or served breakfast in bed. But, at the same time, I want good, consistent, non-committal sex. I don't want this from multiple people. I just want this good sex from one person who I like and who is good in bed, but at the same time no labels or ties.

But then I really don't want this one person to be having sex with anyone else, and I won't either. I never sleep with other people when I'm in a FWB even though the understanding is of course that we're open. But I would rather we *not* be open, just without explicitly stating that. But even though we are having sex exclusively (without saying we're exclusive), I would like somewhat of a romantic dynamic where we spend time together and hang out and do activities and have fun. But we're not 'together' like that. Then we sleep together and go our separate ways and they don't bother me with incessant texts or telling them when I'm home or what I'm doing or pestering me to reply to this or that or plans to meet their family or adopt a dog together or including me in future goals and shit.

Just have sex and do fun things and hang out and be lovers kind of but don't nail me down or ask for allegiance or expect anything further and vice versa.

Why am I like this.