Dating multiple people. Need advice

I (26F) have never been one to date multiple people at the same time. I typically go on quite a few first dates with various guys and there will be one that really sticks out, and I will hyperfocus- drop the rest- get tunnel vision. And in my experience I tend to put them on a pedestal because of this, get way too deep way too quick, and it comes crashing down within a month or so. This has been the last 2-3 relationships for me.

Fast forward to now.

This is the first time I’ve really been intentional with NOT repeating the same things I have done in my past in the hopes that I can build something more sustainable and long lasting.

What it’s now resulted in is me dating two different guys for the last month. (About 4 dates each). I really like both of them, and am very interested in continuing to get to know each of them.

I also have been semi talking to a third guy, and have plans to meet him coming up.

I am in such a level headed place about the two guys and feel like I’m seeing them in a clear light which is so refreshing! I’m excited about them, but not obsessed like I usually am.

I have not been intimate with either*

I kind of feel a bit confused about it though.

1. Even though I’m excited and level headed this doesn’t feel as fun as when I get all wrapped up in the whirl wind of my old tunnel-vision self. Which in turn makes me question if I really can see myself with either of them long term. I know rationally that the passion I have been used to feeling is mostly because of my poor habits but still it’s hard. Any advice there?

2. Do I let them know I am seeing other people? Idk for me in my past once it’s like date 4 or 5, consistently seeing a guy, I just kind of assume we’re focusing in on each other and that he’d say so otherwise.

3. For those of you who date multiple people when do you typically get clarity on who to start focusing in on???

4. When do you stop introducing new people into your dating circle? Like should I even meet this third guy?

This is hard.

TLDR : dating multiple people, need advice