I (24M) really don’t understand what changed in the past few years… towards the end of high school and throughout my years in college, I was pretty much irresistible to girls. Back then I used to be obnoxious. I was cocky, stupid, and shallow. I had no interests and no aspirations. I was also skinny and had no money or really anything to offer yet somehow I attracted all kinds of girls constantly without even trying. Girls would DM me, walk up to me in public and start a convo, and just send me photos all out of nowhere or straight out offer sex. Girls were just into me and it was great.
Fast forward to now when I moved to a new city for work. I am now much more educated, polished, and not anywhere near the douchebag I used to be. I’m in the best shape of my life and am extremely well off financially. Also, I didn’t become a boring corporate Joe either. I have lots of interests and hobbies and am quite outgoing BUT now, it’s almost like I’m the scum of the earth and can’t even get a single girl to show the slightest interest in me. Everyone I meet just seems so unconcerned with dating/relationships almost as if they were asexual. It’s really driving me mad because I keep looking for a relationship but I always either get ignored or ghosted. It’s very frustrating and it has driven my self esteem to the ground. I do want to eventually meet someone and settle but so far that’s proving to be impossible…
I need advice on whether to just completely give up, do my thing, and hope that a girl will be interested in me one day, or continue actively looking to get the attention of the girls I’m attracted to?
It’s all so confusing and I would love to hear how some of you would approach this..
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