I’m sure this will sound cynical and will hit a little too close to home for some people, but here goes; Have a little healthy self doubt sprinkled into your dating. Especially if it’s not going well for you.
I’m just saying be very careful with the notion that one should always remain steadfast or that it’s the world’s job to accept you for exactly who and how you are
Accept that sometimes it is you, and that sometimes you’ll have to change a little to get different results. You can Blame the game, blame other people, or cite all the exceptions (or whatever flavor of crutch you prefer)but in the end you are the only variable that you can control in dating, so always look to yourself first.
Always end up with cheaters? Your picking them
Bad partner after bad partner? You’re fishing from the wrong pond
Conversations dry up? Maybe you seem boring
Get ghosted again and again? You’re doing something that turns people off.
People not being attracted to you? Maybe your hygiene/style/mannerisms aren’t very good.
Don’t like how dating works “these days”? Best of luck dating with your inflexibility
Not receiving love? What if you aren’t very lovable In your current form.
Feel free to share observations or examples you seen, and of course the inevitable & desperate denials of this which protect you from ever having to improve or change.
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