Frustrated

Do you ever get frustrated when people tell you just to focus on yourself rather than attempt to date?

I’ve been single for close to five years, and I’ve grown a lot during this time period and have truly put myself first. I have a good group of friends, and I’m not lonely. Additionally, I’m not opposed to being single the rest of my life, but it would be nice to be in a relationship, of course with the right person.

I guess quarantine has just made me realize that I actually want and am finally ready to be in a relationship. I’ve tried dating apps (pre-Covid 19 and during Covid-19) and for the most part those encounters have pretty much gone nowhere, fizzling out. Or I just end up getting bored of the conversation or getting ghosted in the end. It’s just tiring. Granted, I am in grad school, which is time consuming, but I have the capacity to make time for someone because I’m not one hundred percent bogged down.

My friends mostly tell me to focus on myself right now, and I mean it makes sense since I have one year of grad school left. However, again I’m not lonely, but I don’t know how to be content with being single for now.