Me (18 F) and this guy (21 M) have been in a friends with benefits type relationship for a while now (few months). This was working great for the both of us. But the other day we each said that there was something we needed to tell the other. Long story short on that conversation, both of us have feelings for the other.
This wouldn't normally really be much of a problem I feel, but neither of us feels like we're ready for that type of relationship. There's a lot of trauma there, for both of us in regards to our previous relationships. I don't think I've processed how mine ended enough. I don't know when I'll be able to move on either. There's a lot of grief there for me still because my previous relationship ended when my girlfriend died. He said he hasn't worked through everything that he needs to either, and that his previous relationship left him with a lot of trust issues.
While neither of us think we're ready for a more committed relationship because of what happened in our previous relationships, we also don't want to lose what we have with each other.
This has left me at a loss for how to move forward. I don't think we can go back to just FWB now that we've both admitted our feelings for the other, but I don't know what to do, and it doesn't seem like he does either. How should we move forward? Is FWB still a good idea? What should I do?
TLDR; we both have feelings for each other, but aren't ready for a more committed relationship and don't know how to move forward.
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