Hey,
In August 2019 I asked out this girl. I would not go far in the details but we knew each other, texted a lot, talk to each other etc. nothing wrong went back than. I asked her out and she rejected me. Okay fine, still after that we keep chatting and having conversations. Sadly I could not see her that often anymore, but I never felt like anything has changed much. The conversations were started from both sides.
In October 2019 she went abroad to study at the other side of the world. That was very hard for me, but still I wished her good luck, and she responded nicely (of course) and even than we still chatted a bit. But it vanished over time. She got busy and I got busy. But never something crazy happened between us.
Now last April I noticed on my Instagram page I suddenly had lost one follower. I don’t have many so I noticed it very easily. I thought hmm okay, till I noticed it was her who unfollowed me. Than I thought ‘why would she unfollow me after not having contact for several months’. It felt so random back then. I was wondering why, but I could not really care that much. I just found it weird. I could still follow her accounts.
Now a week ago I noticed she was working again at her work in the mall. I saw her and she obviously saw me (I looked right in her eyes), but we have not had any contact at all. I was in a hurry, but felt a bit bad for not saying everything so I texted her that evening how she was doing.
But she is ignoring the message on what’s app till this day…. but when I 2 days ago looked at my social media again I noticed she removed me from all her socials…. her Instagram, Facebook etc.
I don’t really get it. I never felt like there went anything bad between us in the past. It is definitely not the rejection because we had even contact like usual after that.
TL:dr I am now thinking what did I do wrong? So far I know nothing badly happened between us. Also the random unfollowing me in April questions me. What is all behind this and why is she all sudden now ignoring my text? I just don’t get it… and it is consuming me. The thought why would she do this? I don’t get it. I feel a bit guilty now. What did I do wrong? So far I know nothing ever happened. I don’t know anymore what is wrong with me to be honest. I feel a bit hopeless at the moment. What is going on in her head?
I am a introvert and since her rejection I have not come in contact with any girl I would possible want to date. It really sucks but for me it is just hard to talk to people out of the blue. And I am a bit a soft egg from the inside. These things hit me hard and make me thinking the entire day what I possible could have done. And make scenarios in my head how I could do things better etc. asking a girl out requires me to climb a mountain every time. It takes me much energy and time, and now I feel a bit guilty about this entire situation because it makes me feel a bit worthless and hopeless. What should I do?
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