TLDR; hookup shows little signs he likes me and I like him. How do you feel about telling someone you like it. Also is it worth telling him or should I wait for him to say something.
I’m stuck my hookup and I work together. We both broke our rules for not hooking up with coworkers. We are work friends and we have so many coworkers that want us to get together. He didn’t want to have any sort of label not even fwb. We hooked up once then ended it. Now we hooked up during quarantine (I know not safe) and ended it again. Our job is incredibly chatty and we both don’t want that. But he’s unlike any other hookup I’ve had. We don’t kiss much but we cuddle like what you would imagine new love would be. I’ve only been sober hooking up once and he’s been drunk all the times. But when I tried to leave when I was sober he told me that I need to stay and sleep for a bit aka cuddle. And the last time he needed to leave but he told me that I could stay though he had to leave his house. He gives me small kind of invitations but when I ask he always says no. One time he asked me to come over then no then yes right back to no within 4 messages. He’s very open with me telling me things that guys wouldn’t be willing to admit. But he just ended it again but decided to hook up one more time before we went back to work. He’s said before he’s given up on dating he’s got poor self esteem for no reason. But his past has hurt him and is closed off. But it seems like there’s a little more than just sex. I’ve not really shown the best signs on how I feel. I want him to be happy and hookup with others since we aren’t a thing I want him to be happy. I’ve tried to hang out with him outside of his place and it didn’t happen. I think he and I have been nervous to be around each other doesn’t help that coworkers bring up shit about us together in front of one another. I change the idea of us on a date with a female friend. But I really like him I have respect and he gives me butterflies and I’m so nervous when he’s around. I haven’t liked someone since my ex broke up with me 2 years ago. So it’s new for me. I’m usually really blunt when I’ve liked someone. It’s only worked once. But I’m struggling to tell him in fear that I would lose him even as a friend. Plus seeing him 5/6 days a week at work. But I think since he ended it last week I’m gonna wait another week or two and tell him and I want to do it in person. If I have to I’ll tell him over a phone call. Which we have talked on the phone for hours previously. I don’t want to do it over text I don’t want him to do the no yes shit. I want to know if I’m there just for sex or there might be more feelings than just friends. So do you think it’s worth telling him? I’m prepared for the worst a no and never speaking to him again.
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