I have NO idea what to think or how to feel about this. I met an awesome guy from Tinder. He was a gentlemen from the start and we exchanged some playful flirty banter before deciding to meet in person. This was in early March before lockdown began. He ordered us some food and dessert, I brought us some wine. It went extremely well… we couldn’t stop talking, we stayed up almost all night. It was nonstop conversation for 9 straight hours, and we were intimate several times. He let me stay the night and made me coffee before I went. He lives in a condo with another adult male, but that’s it. There were no signs of a woman whatsoever, and he showed me his entire home besides his roommate’s room, and I met his roommate as well. We’ve been in constant contact since and have been making plans for excursions once this quarantine has ended. Things are still going great, we flirt a lot, but I did run into something that has made me question EVERYTHING. My best friend and I are extremely into astrology and she’s been begging me to find out his zodiac sign ever since I met him. I didn’t know how to just randomly ask and had somehow forgotten to ask during our first night together, so my best friend suggested I search him on Facebook and I did. I found him but his birthday wasn’t displayed so I went further into his information and I didn’t find his birthday but rather… found that his relationship status states he has been married to a woman since 2006. I knew he had a child but he never mentioned anything about a wife or an ex-wife or anything for that matter. I could tell his bedroom was not shared with a woman. Between his room and bathroom there just was no evidence of a woman living there… I didn’t go digging through drawers or anything but there genuinely was nothing. He even showed me the inside of his closet because it’s huge and I saw nothing. He wasn’t wearing a ring.. and again, no women from his past came up in conversation. I realized he hasn’t posted on facebook since 2015, so I decided to browse the wife’s profile and her last post was 3 months ago and it was a picture of their kid on its birthday. There were no public photos of them together since early 2019 on her profile… but her last name has remained the same. I am extremely confused. I don’t know how to confront him or how to tell him I had creeped on his facebook as well as hers. I really want to see where things go with him and I’m ok with it if he’s in the middle of a separation which seems likely but I just don’t know for sure what’s going on here. They take turns having custody of the child too because he does have her a couple of days a week. Why would they be switching off if they’re still together? Why would he live in a condo with another guy? Why were there no signs of a woman? So many things aren’t adding up. I don’t know what to think or how to feel about this.
TLDR — I went on a fabulous date with a guy from Tinder, and accidentally discovered via his facebook page that his relationship status is listed as married since 2006, but there was no evidence of a woman and they switch off custody with their child. I don’t know how to ask him what the situation is or whether I should be concerned….
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