this is my first post on reddit, I’m an avid lurker but don’t really get involved, I’m sorry if this isn’t where I should be posting this but I’m looking for some advice.
me (21F) and my 3 year live in boyfriend (22M) have both struggled with our fair share of depression and anxiety for most of our lives. lately he has really been dealing with some shit. he is in the military and he opened up about how he is feeling to some of his superiors and they ended up nearly checking him into a mental hospital, made him undergo a series of psyche evaluations and speak to multiple therapists but it seems to have done more harm than good. he’s completely shut down, not talking to me or showing me any affection, giving me one word replies. he has had a hard time communicating how he’s feeling to me despite me doing everything I can to let him know I am here for him without any judgement.
personally I have been battling with my own mental health issues on top of all of this, which I have been putting on the back burner and keeping under wraps for his sake. but I’m getting to my breaking point. I don’t know what to do or how to help him, I feel like I’ve tried everything. I feel so hopeless and devastated, we’re both a shell of who we used to be but we still love each other so much. I have no doubt in my mind that he is my soul mate. we have lived together for a year now, I moved to the east coast with him but all of my family is on the west coast. I desperately need some time to myself but I’m terrified to leave him alone. I also don’t have anywhere else to go, the situation with covid making it even harder right now.
I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has any tips or advice on how I can better be there for him and what I can do to push him in the right direction? while also maintaining my own mental health. I feel like everything I say and do is the wrong thing.
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