How do you deal with dating with severe social anxiety?

I (22F) don't know how many of you guys with social anxiety relate to this (and I don't want to generalize), but I honestly feel like I will never be ready to date or be able to successfully/comfortably. I don't even have hope this will change in the next decade because:

A) Social anxiety is a huge block. I can hardly make friends or have a mildly involved social interaction with new people without having a crisis and not becoming drained. I just become so nervous that I act like a different person and it's very visible. And embarrassing. Because of that, I haven't even tried dating yet and I have this feeling like I'm behind the curve on it… which leads me to my next point.

B) I become insanely infatuated with most of the people I'm attracted to. I don't know if it's just because I've never dated anybody and have only had high school crushes or if it's literally something just wrong with me. It happens all the time and I hate it. It makes me feel endlessly immature because I know it's such a high-school thing to do. For god's sake, I'm infatuated with a guy on Tinder right now and I don't even know him! We've barely spoken! Dating without getting infatuated will be impossible. It inevitably leads to either being heartbroken and/or ruining the relationship yourself by falling for someone you don't know.

C) Also, terrible self-esteem that's caused by/because of social anxiety. My SA originally developed because of hating my appearance. I also really dislike my personality and I tend to be very hard on myself when I "screw up" social interaction. It's made my self-esteem so bad that I think I would be very easily manipulated if I date the wrong person. I hate myself so much that I will become infatuated with someone just for being attracted to me. It's so embarrassing. My friend has the same problem as me and I saw her almost fall into an abusive relationship because she didn't believe she deserved or would get anyone better.

D) Additionally, I'm just not in a good place in life and won't be for a long time. Being depressed, not having plans for the future, not being happy, not moving forward, and making friends or doing "normal things" etc. I can't imagine that I would be able to really be with someone when my own life is in such disorder and will be for a very long time. I can't imagine who would want to date me in such a state. I definitely wouldn't want to unload my life problems on someone else.

So yeah, dating feels pretty hopeless.

Please let me know if you guys are feeling at all similarly or how, if you did, manage to move past it?

Tldr; Feels like I will never be ready to date because of ensuring issues with social anxiety, low self-esteem, infatuation problems, depression, not having a "normal" social life, etc. What do you guys do?