Here’s the deal-
I (17M) took this one chick who I’ve always found cute and known for a while (17F) out for a casual first date. Before this we were acquaintances, we sat across from each other in physics, and once quarantine started we talked once a week or so. Read how the date went for more context about how I should approach her now.
We got burritos at this lowkey Mexican place I love and at one point she was joking about that she got a letter from the national guard but can’t do a pushup. Dinner went fine but after that is when it gets awkward. I think it’s worth noting that I have aspergers and I‘m not so suave with 1 on 1 interactions. Before writing any of this off as pity, also note that my aspergers is mild enough to where people usually perceive me as normal, just a bit idiosyncratic. Also note this girl has always been reserved and it’s relatively hard to tell what she’s feeling or what to say at times.
There’s a sports complex with a turf stadium by the Mexican restaurant, so I took her there and said that we’re gonna get her first pushup on the 50 yard line. I know if this was someone I’ve met just recently this would have been a dicey move, but since I know we share the same sarcastic and ironic sense of humor I figured it was ok. There’s always people using the turf stadium so I took her to a soccer pitch next to it, the sun was setting, and it was a pretty scene. There was a kickball sitting on the grass on the way to the pitch, and I started playing soccer with it, and we were kicking it back and forth on the way to the pitch.
Awkward moment #1: A Karen starts shouting us down and we realized that was her and her kids ball. I kick it back to her and my date starts walking away bc the situation was so awkward. I catch up with her and she starts mentioning how embarrassing that was and I had to play it off like “it’s over and done with, we’re never gonna see her again, we didn’t know it was hers,” and shit like that.
We go to midfield on the pitch and we try to get her first pushup, have a laugh about it, and she starts challenging me to some moves like cartwheels, and since I used to wrestle and we had to do shit like that, I actually was able to pull them off.
Awkward moment #2: were sitting at midfield watching the sunset, I start showcasing my interest, amp up the physical touch a bit, and she’s initially receptive- but I’m craning my neck in the position we’re in, pull away, and she goes a bit cold, and I’m borderline shitting my pants at this point wondering if I fucked up.
It gets to be twilight, we’re laying down watching the stars slowly come out, we start having a deep convo about the meaning of life and shit, which is a huge green flag in my book- I love it when a girl can talk about deep and heavy topics and have intelligent opinions on them. I go into hold her hand, she was cold at first but warmed up to it.
Awkward moment #3: she starts complaining about mosquitoes eating her alive, and honestly, she was right- I was getting bit up too. She suggests we “outrun them” which was totally a hint that she wants to dip out of here. We dip and she’s walking a bit farther away from me than she was at any point. I damn near thought it was over.
Once we get back to my car, I suggest we go get ice cream. This, imo, saved the date and brought it up from failure to a coin toss. We get ice cream to go, and we dip and park my car across the street. Here we get some more good convo in and at one point I ramp up the flirting, and it ends up in us kissing for a bit, but didn’t end up in us making out. This happened twice. I get it’s the first date and she’s kinda reserved, but I’m not exactly sure what to make of it. It wasn’t awkward either- she was playing with my hair and was receptive to physical touch. I take her home after about an hour and I got a goodnight kiss that she actually initiated.
It’s been a solid day after the date. I’ve read online text her the next day, other sources say wait 2-3 days. She hasn’t hit me up at all, but since she’s naturally reserved, I figure I need to take a bit more initiative. I know you don’t want to look too available either because that’s clingy and unattractive. Is it literally as simple as being like “I had a good time, when are you free again?” Do I wait for her to hit me up? Do I start a bit of small talk and then weave it in after a couple snaps? Based on how the date went, do I even follow up at all?
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