My boyfriend (23m) will constantly make me (23f) feel bad when I don’t give him what he wants.
Perfect example. We went to dinner last night and I went to grab the check because he’s been very busy lately and I wanted to treat him. He said no and said he wanted to take me to dinner, so I let him and thanked him immensely for being so sweet to me. We got home and we’re watching a show and I got a popsicle, he didn’t want one because he was “too full”. The moment I sat down he try’s to just grab it from me and I said “can you ask before you just grab things from me please?” And he snapped back “I just took you out to dinner. If I want some popsicle I deserve some popsicle. You are so rude” when I said that wasn’t fair and a terrible excuse/tarnishing the nice dinner we just had he started getting mad at me saying “that’s crap you would say to me.” And “Get over yourself.” And “you never even thanked me for dinner. You are so selfish you just ruined the night “ all in front of my roommate, I said that it was getting embarrassing how loud he was getting and asked him to quiet down and told him this fight wasn’t necessary, asking him what was really wrong and why he was picking a fight after such a nice evening. All I asked is he just ask before he takes from me. Then he stormed out and left. Haven’t heard a peep from him sense.
He does this very often and his excuse is that I would do these things. It paints me to be a terrible person that I am not. I am very selfless. I just don’t know what to do. I love him tremendously I just feel like he needs to grow up? Is is selfish? Childish? I don’t know. Any advice?
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