This is going to sound a bit weird but hear me out; I’m a massive hopeless romantic and I always want things to be perfect which has given me a lot of problems. For example; once I have managed to get a girl I’m into to agree to go out with me or she has shown serious interest, I’m instantly attracted to her and I’m thinking about her a lot. I know it’s a bad quality though so I hide it very well.
So basically… I have been messaging this girl I met on tinder but due to lockdown we obviously haven’t been able to meet. The messaging hasn’t been anywhere near as regularly as I want but when we do she seems really into it and I feel we are pretty similar and quite a good match. There was about a month where she didn’t message me (she had previously initiated conversation so I was a little worried) and so I thought she wasn’t interested in me anymore. Naturally I found it really hard, but I didn’t want to come off as clingy so I tried really hard not to message her and put it to the back of my mind (despite how much I wanted to). She continued to like my posts and stuff but no messages.
TODAY she finally commented on one of my posts with heart eyes and of course, I went internally mental. I replied (a little bit flirty) and left it at that.
I then waited till the evening and just went for it and asked her if she wanted to meet sometime. Her exact words were; ‘I’d absolutely love that’ and it was almost an instant reply. She also said she is really bad at keeping in contact with people online so that made me feel a lot better about the lack of messages. She isn’t a dry texter either and she seems to really commit with actual interesting responses and it feels like she is as into me as I am to her. (Probably not though because I’m mega into her:) We decided to wait till lockdown is over and then get a drink at some point. It was a very quick to and throw message and I thought it would be better if after I had asked her out, to just leave it there and don’t keep pestering her with messages. So after she agreed I told her to let me know when she is free and we’ll go. I was really happy for a couple hours then I realized pubs and restaurants aren’t opening till June 22nd earliest and even that is conditional…
First question: How do I keep her interested in me until then so that when places open she is still into it and we can decide on a time and date? There is only so much one can message till you know too much and there is nothing to talk about when you meet.
Second question: Should I have probably organized an exact date already so it’s set in stone?
Third question: Soon after we had finished this conversation she updated her tinder profile which she hadn’t really done much of since we started speaking? Is she actually as into me as I think. Though I have heard sometimes women update their tinder profile for fun sometimes?? ?♂️ I understand however we are not exclusive and so she is obviously free to meet others as well ,(although I’m ashamed to say the thought of that kinda upsets me, but I’ll have to get over it).
Sorry if that all sounds a bit immature and stupid but I really want it to work:). Any advice appreciated.
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