I will try to keep this as brief as possible. I (27M) am still a virgin; in fact I've never kissed anyone (let alone french kiss) or even had so much as a relationship in the past. Unfortunately, I was a VERY different person before about 3 years ago, when I decided to shape up and clean myself up. I was depressed that I had not had these experiences yet, so I started to change my outlook on life and even lost a ton of weight to be more confident with my looks. Up until recently I still had no prospects of having these experiences, so I have been very self conscious for a long time about my virginity status, but I am trying to be as confident as possible regardless.
Starting before the quarantine, I started chatting with this girl (24F) online who lives in a city not too far away, but further than a day trip being practical. Over the course of the quarantine, we both talked a lot, did netflix, games, ect. and just got to know each other VERY well. And now we are at the point where we have openly talked about sex and our interest in each other (we have video chatted and sent pictures, some suggestive too). Of course, because of distance and the quarantine, there was no hope of really meeting each other for most of the Spring. Now we have made solid plans to actually meet in a few weeks over a long weekend. We will be sharing a hotel room and just getting out and exploring a city nearby. I know normally meeting over dinner or something like that would be best, but due to circumstances, this is what we chose to do, and I have made the decision to stick with this plan, even if it isn't ideal. And personally, I am open to and eager to take risks like this (that's part of my perspective change to be more of a risk taker).
Now, of course I haven't told her that I'm a virgin or even had a french kiss before, as I have tried to just play up my confidence in this situation. I think I have been successful in being confident, and maybe almost TOO much. I am afraid of not meeting her expectations and embarrassing myself. I would like to know, as weird as it sounds, what advise there is to someone in this situation? I know that I could never be as good as someone with experience, but in what ways can I really think and prepare myself so I am as good at this as I can possibly be in these circumstances? We have been very explicit and detailed in what we want to do with each other, so I at least have some sense of what to expect. Thanks.
TL/DR: I (27M) am a virgin and most likely about to loose my virginity in a few weeks, and want to perform as well as possible. What can I do to prepare?
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