I'm a 16 year old dude from Brooklyn and I'm really new to dating, never had a gf, never been on a date (still never have). There was a girl that I thought was really cute and so I asked her if she wanted to do streaks on snapchat. She said yeah and one day she replied to one of my streaks, which got us talking and kinda flirting with each other. The two of us both went to the same school but we didn't have any classes together so I basically never saw her, maybe once before we got to know each other, but slowly I started liking her more and more. We talked on snap for like a month, and then quarantine hit. We didn't talk to each other for like a week after that, but then we started talkin on instagram, and thats when we really started flirting, so after abput 2 weeks I asked her out, and she said yes. Apparently she liked me for a while now too, so I was over the moon. Things went really well for about a month, we would talk cute to each other all the time, videocall every night for like 4 hours just talking into the night until she fell asleep, even though we couldn't see each other in person, things were amazing and I just couldn't wait to see her irl. But then after that month, there would just be these days where she would act dry out of nowhere, just like be not present in our convos for like a day or two, giving half assed responses, so I got worried, whenever I tried to ask her if anything was wrong, she would tell me no, that everything was fine. So now days are going by, and half the time everything seems fine, but the other half I'm just scared I'm messing shit up. At this point I thought we were a relationship, but I wanted to see what she had to say, so I asked her like "where we at", and she said that she thought about this for a while, and that she really liked me and that I made her happy, but she wasnt ready to date rn, so i replied saying that was okay, and if she needed more time or if she never wanted things to go further its okay, just to talk to me (looking back, this was a bad response), and then she just dodged the whole topic. Afterwards she was just being dry for like 2 days, 1 word responses, shit like that, and I knew she was only doing this with me, so i thought okay fine, ill give her some space, let her be the one to start the convo. 5 days pass and she finally says something, telling me the whole "its not you, its me" thing and that im really great and that she loves talking to me, but she doesnt want to date rn or talk to anybody romantically. So I said it was alright and thought damn it be like that. But then afterwards she started posting shit to her private account and her stories about like "hoeing around" and hooking up, shit like that, less than a week after she sent me that shit. Really fucking broke my heart.My friends did warn me about this, about how she did this type of shit to other guys too, but i didnt take it, thought it was different between us. What I really thought was a relationship, was almost definitely just talking in her mind. Now its been 2 weeks since shes dubbed me and I'm just sad and lonely, out here missing her and shit. Wanted to say all this here, both to rant and see what ya'll have to say about it, was she in the right?, was I really played?, just wanna see the responses. Thanks for reading all that.
P.S. Sorry about the bad grammar and run ons, just kinda started typing and didn't stop.
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