Back in October I met a girl who was emotionally unstable, and didn't realize that she wasn't ready for another relationship until she was in one with me. I asked if her she wanted to make it official and without hesitation said yes. Shortly into the relationship she kept telling me how unsure she was about the relationship because of how she had been hurt in the past, (which should have been a huge red flag to me to end it myself) so I just tried to console her and tell her that I was not him and just because things ended badly with him that they wouldn't go the same way with me. She ended it after only 3 weeks.
Back in January at the beginning of my final college semester I met another girl who was just as into me as I was into her and we confessed feelings for each other in February. However, she expressed her concern about where things would go after we graduated and went our separate ways. The issue was compounded when the quarantine went into effect in March and only saw each other about once a month after that. I explained that if we both wanted it we could make it happen. Over the course of the 4 months that we talked she stated a couple more times how confused she was, that she wanted something with me but wasn't sure how things would work out for her since she attempted long-distance in the past. (again should have been a sign to me.) Even though I was only about 2.5 hrs. from her and told her I could see her every weekend, she wasn't buying it.
If somebody wants you they are going to put in the effort into making if happen. Not drag things out and wonder how things will play out. Find somebody who is willing to do anything to see you and put in just as much effort into you as you want to put into them.
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