Why do men take women for granted to begin with? There can be a few different reasons however one of the main reasons is, you make him feel too safe and secure.
If you are chasing after him, calling him a lot, texting him as much as
or more than he is, nagging and complaining, not letting him pull away and
trying your best to please him so he will want you more, then you are definitely
making your guy too safe and he will start to take you for granted!
Women who spend their entire days thinking about a guy, cancelling
plans just so they can hang out with him when he is available even though she may
not be, are giving a guy insane amount of safety and security!
When this starts to happen, a man thinks ok I’ve already got her, she’s
not going anywhere no matter what I do, I have no need to impress her or to step
things up, since she’s so desperately in love with me anyway. This results in
him giving you the bare minimum or nothing at all, whilst you are left trying
to figure out what went so badly wrong?!
So what is the best way to turn things around when you have reached
this point? It sounds easy but unless you get out of your feelings for him,
start to concentrate on your own happiness separate from him you will always
struggle!
You need to start by building on your self esteem, self confidence and
self love. Alongside this, you then need to start pulling back from all the
attention you have been giving him, even though he is behaving so badly. This involves
amongst other things, not initiating calls and texts more than he does, not nagging
him or complaining when he does something you don’t like, instead putting down
a boundary so he learns that this behaviour is unacceptable. In addition is
also means that you have to stop trying to impress him and “keep him” by doing
things like wearing sexy lingerie, doing acrobatic moves in bed or cooking and cleaning
for him so he will want you more.
You need to start being your own person again and let HIM be the one
who needs to charm, impress and try and “keep you”.
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