If someone loses interest in you, leave it be. Don’t go wasting your time being their ‘friend’ in hopes of winning them back.

I (24F) met this guy (30) on a dating app last year. After we met in person his interest in me plummeted. Idk if he thought I was ugly IRL (I don’t use filters on my photos), thought I was annoying, or what he didn’t like about me. Anyways, for whatever reason he wanted to stay friends with me.

Cool. Or so I thought. I honestly needed a friend, i was new in town, and barely knew anyone else. I admittedly was also hoping he’d change his mind.

Turns out, a year later, that he seems to be changing his tune about me.

The unfortunate thing is, that I’ve finally realized what a fool I was. He tried ‘getting with’ many other girls. Most of whom were a lot more attractive than myself.

I think he finally realized he was trying to date girls way out of his league. He knows I’m a safe bet. Making me the back-up. The second choice.

In short: I finally got what I want, and I hate it. Now I have to turn down the guy I was pining over for an entire year.

I’m a fool. Please don’t do what what I’ve done.