Me and this woman had insane chemistry. She even told this to her new BF. She kept cheating on him with me, promising that once she wants a serious relationship instead of a casual one, she will come around. Spoiler alert: she did not. She had numerous chances to break it off and be with me.
She came clean to her BF, but still wants to keep me around “as a friend”. She wants to know me as a friend first. It’s clearer than the sky what we have is simply more than friendship. Not a conversation goes by without saying the exact same thing as the other and this is only probably the smallest indicator.
It’s clear to me I’m just a backup plan. I told her how I feel like a backup plan and she kept saying I’m not just that and I was an option and she didn’t want a serious relationship at the time, yada yada. In the end this is what I’m to her: a safety net. Someone she knows she can rely on in the end.
Even if we will have a chance to be together, I couldn’t shake this feeling. She could’ve been with me instead of him, but she didn’t want me. I don’t want to be with someone as some consolation prize or backup plan. It’s degrading.
I know their relationship will fail but I have to be strong and decline when the opportunity arises.
Bottomline is if someone wants to be with you, even if the circumstances suck ass, will choose you. Anything else means they are emotionally fucked up or you are just a backup plan who they know will always be there. I tried to rationalize and justify her behaviour for a long time, but there isn’t. She just used me until she had enough.
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