I’ve been single for nearly 4 years now. I really think my ex traumatized me to love again, because I loved her with everything I had in my soul and body. She was my world and every time I looked a her it was like paradise.
Needless to say she took advantage of my love and trust for her and went out with her girls one night and cheated on me. The worst part of the whole thing she acted like it was my fault. She was a master at turning my words against me and I felt like the sky fell on me and just couldn’t go back. There where times I told myself I could forgive her, but what really struck a piercing in my heart what that I gave her space after the whole thing happened. In my head I thought “okay maybe if I don’t text her this week she’ll text me and maybe we can resolve this issue”. So that’s what I did. I didn’t text her for a week and in my head we “took a break”.
The week past and I was confused as to why she hadn’t text me? So I texted her and at first she said she thought I didn’t want her to text me and some bullshit excuses. Whatever. So I explained to her my side and why I didn’t reach out. Well again she played the victim and started to raise her voice and spark an argument. Again I was confused. I gave her space. Well a couple weeks passed and she was the only thing on my mind and I tried reaching out to her several times and it was always the same bullshit excuses she gave me, til finally I was done.
Well, I want to say 3 months passed and I was at a buddies house and we where drinking and he was like “dude I’m sorry”. Confused I asked “What”? He showed me a picture that made my stomach turn and heart break into a million pieces. It was a picture of her and a new guy at Disneyland. I remember vividly the description she put on instagram was “Had a great day with a great guy, thank you for everything you’ve done for me. Thank you came into my life”
Well that took a punch to my gut and I cried. I honestly don’t know what I did wrong. Whenever we argued I always tried to play the bigger person and calm things down. I finally came to the realization that we weren’t meant to be. Only god knows why but as a couple I guess we weren’t compatible. It hurt but I made peace with it. I didn’t want to go through life wondering what could have been. In case you where curious what happened to her, well it’s unfortunate but he was real abusive to her down the road. Which I hated so much., but what could I do? She made it clear she didn’t want me in her life so I had to swallow that bullet as did she. It hurt seeing what I thought was my world being treated like a dog.
After all that happened I vowed to myself to be a better person to myself. I said to myself to only date someone when I truly loved myself. I feel in my heart I’m at that place now. I haven’t felt this way in a while. I never want to feel like that day ever again. It sucked so much that I let myself fall into that.
Sorry for the long story, but now as for the topic at hand. Where do I start? Haven’t been in the dating scene in a while because I was reinventing myself. What are some tips on how to meet women? If it means anything I’m turning 26 next week so I’m looking to meet girls around my age of course. Thanks for all the advice.
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