Ok I’ve never done one of these before but I’ve been really struggling with what to do. So I am (m/18) and I’ve been talking to (f/19) for a little while now. I’ve hung out with her and we’ve hooked up a couple of times. I’ve got to know a lot about her because we talk constantly. We have a lot of the same interests and have great chemistry together. I like her a lot and it seems like the logical choice to want to take it to the next level with her but I’m struggling because I’m hung up another person.
That person is my best friend (f/18). We started out as just friends but I started to develop feelings for her gradually. We also have great chemistry and are just good together. I haven’t said anything to her about it because I’m worried about the basic stuff of: I don’t wanna make things awkward, I’m afraid she’s not going to want to be friends, and that it might make things weird cus we are in the same friend group. Also I don’t want to just dump my feelings on her.
I feel like I’d be insane to let the girl I’ve been talking to for a while now go, but I think it be unfair to her if I started something I wasn’t whole heartily in. And my best friend just makes me feel something this other girl doesn’t.
I’m worried about confessing right now at this point in my life because if my best friend does reciprocate and we both pursue something together, I feel like I might messsomething up in the future because she goes to a different college and I think distance might ruin something.
What should I do? Should I tell the girl I’m talking to about how I feel? Should I tell my best friend how I feel or wait?
Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you!
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